Archive - Jay’s Substack

If I Could Make this ASMR I Would

I struggle when I don’t get enough sleep.

5 hrs ago •

1:22

Dear Hyperindependent: It’s OK To Need Others

I have an aversion to needing anyone.

Aug 22 •

2:28

When Every Day Is Sunday

An ode to August

Aug 20 •

Don’t Rush The Romance

I have spent most of my life deeply, deeply afraid that no one would ever love me.

Aug 20 •

1:14

Hot Take: Looks Matter

Yes, I want to fall in love with someone beautiful.

Aug 18 •

1:05

Beware Sacrificial Love

Jesus died on the cross.

Aug 17 •

1:39

Take People As They Are

I had a slap in the face of a realization this year, which was that I was off base in my attempts to ‘be a better friend.’ I genuinely thought I was the…

Aug 15 •

1:29

Right-Sizing My Expectations for Others

So it may come as no surprise that I’m all about working on myself.

Aug 13 •

1:27

When You Screw Up

I struggle with my mistakes a lot because they trigger my oversized sense of shame.

Aug 12 •

1:15

How To Know Who’s Toxic

You know that feeling you get when you leave a conversation with someone, the conversation where halfway through you wonder how it hasn’t been a full…

Aug 11 •

1:18

Cut Out ALL The Toxic People. All Of Them.

Friends are plants.

Aug 10 •

1:52

Before Romance, Focus On What You Have

Speaking of romantic love, it’s easy to put our hopes for that pretty high on our list of things we want (if not let it dominate the list entirely).

Aug 8 •

1:22

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